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My Dom is experienced. How do i bring it up in a way that doesnt freak him out? Im so down for all of this and enjoy it so much… I feel as if this is something i need more than i want.. I dont want to live a vanilla life. I need excitement when it comes to sex.. There are also different levels to it.

My Dom and I have argued for 4 years over swinging. Now he wants to divorce me. For men, everything in life is about the ego. Not putting anyone down. Just a fact. After all U have seen a been through in this life, I recommend that you do what brings you the most joy, and avoid anyone who interferes with that joy.

Hi Yvette, the most important thing is finding someone who you can trust fully before getting into a relationship with them. Then take it from there. If he loves you which seems to be in question here he would want for you to be comfortable. It made me tear up yo read your reply. Please leave this relationship. And may you find someone who can meet some or all of your needs.

Not just someone who is a taker at his conscience with no regard for you. Interested in beginning this type of relationship. No experience other than preference for rougher sex. Any tips or advice is appreciated.???? I wish there was a step by step book he could read to learn to be dominate in the bedroom. My wife and I am in a similar situation. She is an emergency physician and I stay home with the kids. I am in touch with power and have had positions of high responsibility before kids so it is somewhat easy to touch.

Do you see dominant traits in him? Verbalize them to him…make him believe his masculinity turns you on. Practice some worship.

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Make sure he believes you see them in him. You should be able to bring the man out of him. In our home it has gone full contract, full submission. And we are wildly happy and having better sex than the first years of marriage. It can work. Done all of this.. I never new there were names for stuff like this.

Its still going strong. We are in are 50s 51 and I still get exited knowing im going to see him.. Recommend the roleplay.. I agree with your advise here. Respect, trust, and boundaries are essential. I am very careful with punishment. I want her excited, tingling in anticipation, and soaking wet. I play until she begs me to finish. Oh we are medical professionals. I need some help. My Dom we have exchanged a few words here and there over a year. I have been very nervous to meet in person. I will in 2 weeks. He said I will be bruised and beat and He is going to choke me.

Now should I have a red flag that first session sounds like a lot? I have talked to him recently on the phone. He has started to control my orgasm This is the first time ever being a sub and just leaving a very vanilla relationship. He wants me to come to his home. I want this so much I been wanting something for years and unimaginative men have bored me.

I want this to be real. If this has not been established then RUN. This sounds like a first encounter and for a powerful Dom may just overwhelm both parties. Your Dom is not taking you into account. I wish you could chat with her. Hi sean, I hope you have some advice for me. My men and I have tried a bit here and there and it really got us off, especially me! We have talked about it, he is not much of a talker, and he says he finds it scary to have so much control.

Even with the safe words. I have explained to him that that is just what makes me so hot but he still is holding back, a lot. Do you have some tips for me on how to make him comfortable again? Talk to him. Find out if there is something bothering him and see if you can help resolve it. Also keep in mind that certain medications and mental health problems can inhibit his sex drive. I kind of blamed him for the slightly boring sex life hes also on anti-depressants and sometimes very monotone expression, hard to tell if hes truly into things your doing sexually but whilst I think this has played a part, I kind of realized reading this how I am just naturally more of a submissive partner, or at least a bottom.

This was also accompanied by dirty talk. Whilst I really enjoyed this change, I was also taken aback by this sudden change in behaviour, that thinking back I had signs of, but was never totally pronounced as it has been recently. It made me go, wo I thought I knew him, but I guess I didnt. When I asked him about it he told me it was always there and idk, to why its come about now. I guess it made me really want to understand him. I guess you could read a thousand articles but your partner is unique, and there are so many factors as to why change now. I guess he too felt the rut of our sex lives recently.

Its given me a glimpse into the deep sexual fantasy and drives of my boyfriend and mine, a world you think you know but never really. I never thought or appreciated being submissive until he surprised me. I would like to understand more about this side of him, but sometimes hes just so closed, and sometimes I feel like getting him to talk about him makes him not exactly uncomfortable like hes embarrassed, but anxious, like hes afraid his fantasies are too much or little for my own.

Thanks for the post, at first I was afraid his change of behavior was a sign of him cheating, or acting fantasies hes had for new women he may be emotionally cheating with. Not questioned and this is a real opportunity to transform our sex life. I have experienced 9 others prior to my current bf. I have now been blessed with an indescribable fairytale who is completely dedicated to being an engineer with computers and I need to please him more than anything! The Bad Girls Bible newsletter is a great place to start. Talk to your dom about this and figure out what works for both of you…being bratty?

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This is in regards to a long term relationship Dom and Submissive life style. My gf and I have been practising her being submissive in sex. But I worry for weeks about the consequences. They were too busy to notice anything. The most important thing for children is that they.


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The hardest punishment for me to take would be The stupidest punishment I've ever experienced was It would be easy for me to At least I'd understand the problem better. At least I'd have done the right thing morally. At least I'd know how to do it better the next time. At least it's over right away. When I was punished as a child, I mostly felt In slave training, I think punishment is And one more question: Now, count the number of times you chose a , b , c , and d for questions If you chose mostly a answers, you tend to be sure of yourself and your abilities.

Why rock the boat? You may have grown up in a busy household, so you learned to handle crises for yourself. You tend to focus on the end result, not the means. You may have a hard time if you are punished for philosophical or ethical reasons, especially if no obvious harm resulted from your actions. If you chose mostly b answers, you are not often in charge and prefer to have a superior to confer with.

If you are reprimanded, you want to know what, specifically, you did wrong and how to avoid the same error in the future. If you chose mostly c answers, you lend toward perfectionism. You want to see an error corrected at all costs. You may tend to overemphasize your intellectual side and may respond to punishment by berating yourself. You value fairness and balance, so you want to see the punishment fit the crime. Consequently, you may find corporal punishment frustrating or degrading. If you chose mostly d answers, you tend to stew over errors you make, but are afraid to admit them, fearing the worst.

As a result, your self-esteem suffers. You may have grown up in an authoritarian household, or your parents may have been emotionally distant. You may suffer from fear of abandonment.

It is very difficult for you to confess wrong-doing, but you find it cathartic to do so. You crave positive reinforcement and supportive attention. If you are physically punished, you need reassurance that you have not failed totally. If your answers were evenly divided between several letters, take note of any insights you may have gained from the exercise. What do you most fear about punishment? What childhood memories does it evoke? What, in your view, is the role of punishment in slave training? You may wonder how question 10 fits into this scheme.

Devising punishments for masochists remains a perennial problem for slave trainers. Unlike other submissives, masochistic slaves-in-training rarely derive benefit from corporal punishment, since they experience pleasure in intense sensation. The solution, of course, is either to punish masochists with a type of sensation they dislike or to avoid corporal punishment altogether. If you are working independently, this lesson will have served as an exercise in greater self-knowledge.

Miss Abernathy cautions you against self-inflicted punishments, as it is all too easy to lose perspective. Instead, note your shortcomings in your slave journal. The Collar The collar is the symbol par excellence of slavehood. Unlike the slave journal, which legally and morally is yours, the collar remains the possession of the Owner and must be surrendered upon demand. While you, as property, have no direct say in the style of the collar - that is for your trainer or Owner to decide - it may prove useful for you to think, in theoretical terms at least, about the collar as symbol.

Exercise: Write a paragraph describing your dream collar, What kind of material is it made of? Does it lock? Could you wear this collar in non-scene public? How would others respond to seeing you in this collar? What feelings would the collar evoke in you? Activity: Make a list of five substitutes for the traditional black leather slave collar.

Try wearing one of these substitutes for a day. How does it make you feel? Do you find yourself aware of the collar? Safety Warning: Take care that the item you choose does not obstruct your breathing; this is especially Important if you want to sleep in the collar or perform hard physical labor or exercise, as your neck may swell. Activity: Visit a shop that sells slave collars and try some on. Household Management It is my assumption that most slaves will be engaged in some form of domestic service.

Further, housekeeping standards and needs vary so greatly from person to person, that it is difficult to predict what any one dominant might require of you. Therefore, in this section I have undertaken a thorough discussion - perhaps, for some individuals, a review - of the rudiments of household management. For the purposes of this section of the book, I will assume that you are the sole servant on hand and that the household in your care is of such size that no other help would be needed. Likewise, I assume that your Owner has turned over all basic household responsibilities to you and takes no active role, beyond the fiscal, in maintaining the household.

I strongly recommend that all siaves-in-training avail themselves of the information herein, even if they have no expectation of becoming house servants. Most dominants are busy people and would be delighted to find a slave who is as competent in the kitchen as in the bedroom. Further, some dominants will assess potential slaves by employing them first as houseboys. If they pass muster and prove trustworthy, they may be invited to receive further training.

This is a common practice among professional dominants. Suggested Reading: In addition to the specijtc volumes mentioned in the lessons themselves, all domestic servants should come to terms with the basics of time management. Housework I: Basic Cleaning Like most of us in this day and age, dominants are busy people. Professional organizers and cleaning services proliferate in our cities as more and more people have less and less time.

Because service-oriented submissives derive satisfaction not only from a job well done, but from the very fact of having performed a task for someone whom they love and admire. Housecleaning However noble your intentions, though, you may feel overwhelmed when faced with a house in sometimes desperate need of cleaning. This may be, for the time being, your own home, or that of your trainer.

You are not expected to complete all the steps In this step, you walk from room to room and make notes on what needs cleaning. You'll want to note any special features of the room - high ceilings, French doors, antique rugs - that need special attention. You may find it helpful to sketch a diagram of the room, marking furniture, fixtures, and other details. Look up the information in a good reference book see the suggested reading list for Miss Abernathy's favorites.

This step is vital to your success. Consider environmentally safe cleansers like vinegar, baking soda, and lemon juice: They are not only more pleasant to use, but you'll save money as well. Be sure to wear lined rubber gloves to protect your skin, and if you must use toxic chemicals, read and follow the safety guidelines on the package.

A half-polished silver tea service is no more useful than a completely tarnished one. It is helpful to start your cleaning to the right of the door you entered by and work clockwise around the room until you are finished. When you find a method that works particularly well, record it in a household journal. Training with Miss Abemalby Many will become easier with practice, so don't be dismayed. It should include tasks to be done daily, weekly, biweekly, monthly, semi-annually, and annually. For example, beds should be made daily, and sheets changed weekly, but mattresses need be turned only semi-annually.

Scheduling will help you distinguish the more important tasks from the less. Most of the suggested books contain schedules that can be adapted to your specific needs. This invaluable guide shows you - with the aid of dear illustrations - how to handle everything from basic household cleaning to artificial respiration. Activity: Hire a professional cleaning service to spring-clean your house. Watch how the cleaners work. If hiring a service isn't an option for you, please read the Clean Team books cover to cover.

Make a point of reading it regularly; clip or jot down any useful tips. Laundry Along with housecleaning, most slaves in domestic service will be expected to attend to the household laundry. Whether you have access to a washer and dryer in the house or will be taking the laundry out, there are a few important factors to bear in mind. Whites should be washed by themselves.

Miss Abernathy prefers light and dark colors to be separated as well, rendering approximately three loads. Most labels also have laundry instructions. You should use the hottest water that the fabrics can withstand. In general, whites should be washed in hot water, colors in warm, and any non-colorfast items in cold.

All rinses can be in cold water. It is not the suds that clean clothes, but the often invisible cleansers and borax in the detergent. In fact, many products contain a sudsing agent only because consumers expect to see suds. These sudsing agents are not only unnecessary but may be harmful to the environment. Always dilute bleach in water and then add clothes. Do not use liquid bleach on colors; choose a powder specifically designed for use on colors.

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Note that fabric softeners can be irritating to the skin because of the perfumes they contain. If you are doing laundry for a person with allergies or sensitive skin, choose an unperfumed softener or skip it altogether. Again, choose the highest temperature the clothing can withstand: high for cottons, medium for permanent press, low for more delicate fabrics. Clothes that will be ironed should be hung on hangers. All other items should be folded and put away immediately. Some people are very particular about how their clothes are folded.

If you are in doubt, ask, or check their drawers for examples of properly folded garments. A quick once-over with a warm iron will soften the fabric again. Also check the iron before you turn it on to make sure it is clean. Cotton and linen clothes require a very hot iron, and you may need to spritz the clothes with plain water, too. Consult any of the suggested reading books for hints on ironing. Turn them over to a professional dry cleaner.

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Some fabrics most silks and fine wools and certain garments stockings and other lingerie must be washed by hand. Fill a clean sink with cool water. While the water is running, add a small amount of mild washing soap. Immerse the garments in the soapy water one at a time and squeeze the suds through the garments. Do not scrub or wring the garments. Rinse with fresh water and hang to dry. Avoid wooden racks, as they may splinter and often decay with prolonged exposure to dampness. Activity: Organize your sock drawer so that you can locate any individual pair of socks by touch only.

Hint: separate socks by color and weight. Use old shoe boxes or tissue boxes to separate the categories. A short exercise: Right now, how many pairs of clean underwear do you have on hand? Don't procrastinate with the washing. If you include laundry in your regular cleaning schedule, it will not build up and become burdensome. Dishes Finally, even if they are not cooking or eating in the house, slaves are frequently called upon to wash dishes. If you have the use of an electric dishwasher, you will find this a simple task.

Add the dishwashing detergent powder or liquid , close the machine, and turn it on. What could be simpler? If you are washing dishes by hand, however, the task involves a bit more planning. Be sure to wear lined rubber gloves to spare your hands. Using hot water and dishwashing liquid, wash glassware first, then cutlery, then plates, then any pots and pans or greasy utensils.

Pots and pans with baked-on food or burned bottoms should be soaked in hot water with a little soap for minutes, then washed thoroughly. You may need to use an abrasive sponge or steel wool to remove the burned food, but be sure that the pan will not be damaged by abrasion. Heatproof glass pans and pans with non-stick coatings are delicate and should he handled with care. Crystal and silver should never be washed in a dishwasher. When washing crystal, put a terry cloth towel in the bottom of the sink to avoid chipping the crystal, and only use warm water. Silver should be dried immediately and stored in felt bags to minimize tarnishing.

Some fine china must also be washed by hand. Use the same technique as with crystal. Activity: If you are accustomed to washing your dishes in a machine, try washing them by hand for a few days. Some people find the repetitive nature of the task and the sound and feel of the warm water quite soothing. Housework II: Grocery and Household Shopping Grocery shopping is another task that many dominants are happy to turn over to a slave. Like cleaning, it is not inherently difficult, but does require some planning. Shopping Lists Are you the sort of person who shops by wandering down the aisles and picking up whatever looks appetizing at the moment?

Exercise: Ideally, you'll need the help of a friend for this activity. Make up a short shopping list items , and send your friend to the store. Obviously, the lesson here is: Be specific. Add to this list anything that you normally keep on hand but might be out of at the moment. Include spices, baking supplies, and other items that you may use infrequently.

Then do the same for the refrigerator. While you're at it, throw away any perishables that are making your kitchen look like a science lab. Now check your cleaning and paper supplies and any toiletries and add any appropriate items to your list. You have just created a Master Shopping List. Activity: Go to your usual supermarket with a pad of paper and a pencil. Draw a box to represent the store and divide the box into columns to represent the aisles.

In each column, write the items displayed in each aisle: produce, dairy, frozen foods, baking products, cereal General headings are all you need; use the overhead signs in the aisles if you need help. Now, match up the specific items on your Master Shopping List with the schematic drawing of the supermarket.

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Chocolate ice cream Leave some blank spaces at the end for items you may have forgotten. Photocopy your store-diagram-cum-shopping-list and hang one copy on the refrigerator or on inside of a cupboard door, along with a small pencil. When you run out of an item, circle it on the list. It will help you speed through the store. This system can be adapted for most stores, including drugstores, office supply stores, and large chain variety stores.

Resources: Some supermarkets are now offering computer-assisted grocery shopping. They provide software - a database of their stock - that allows you to select the items you want and alternatives. You submit your list by e-mail and specify a delivery lime. Male or female, most dominants appreciate a well-prepared meal. In addition to providing energy and nutrients for our bodies, food nourishes the soul.

It can be a source of comfort as well as pleasure. What better way to care for someone than to prepare a feast for their senses? Basic Skills Virtually anyone can learn the basics of cooking. If you can read and follow directions, you can cook. Activity: Purchase or borrow a copy of one of the basic cookbooks on the suggested reading list. Don't worry aboutmaking any of the recipes yet: Just read the cookbook as a book.

Note any terms or ingredients that are unfamiliar to you and make a point of finding more information on them. Activity: Buy and read a cooking magazine or two. Activity: Inventory your cooking tools. You may own a single skillet and a tea kettle or a piece set of professional grade cookware. List everything you have on hand. If you will be cooking elsewhere, inventory that kitchen instead.

Activity: Public television stations often run high-quality cooking shows by well-known chefs. Check your local programming, and watch a few. You can also record them for later viewing. Both feature simple, healthful recipes and focus on basic techniques. Julia Child is a perennial favorite. Activity: II you learn best by doing, rather than reading or watching, try taking a hands-on course. Community centers and adult schools offer low-cost cooking classes. Simple Classic Meals At minimum, a slave should know how to make a few classic dishes.

None of these meals takes more than an hour, including cooking time. The ingredients are all readily available at your supermarket, and the recipes - which serve at least two - can be doubled if needed. Breakfast Muffins 1 c. Combine dry ingredients in a bowl, then mix in wet ingredients, stirring until just combined batter will be lumpy. Bake approximately 20 minutes or until golden brown. Makes 1 dozen. Onion Soup 2 T. Add remaining ingredients and bring to a boil. Simmer uncovered for 1 hour. Remove and discard bay leaf before serving. Serves 6 as a first course.

Variations: While the alcohol in the red wine will cook out of the soup, if you are cooking for someone who does not tolerate alcohol well, substitute 2 T. For a simple, hearty lunch, spoon soup into an oven-safe bowl over a slice of day-old French bread. Top with grated parmesan or romano cheese and a slice of Swiss or fontina cheese. Place bowl under a broiler until the cheese is melted. Angel Hair Pasta with Tomato Sauce 1 large oz. Before the garlic turns brown, add the tomatoes and cook until thickened a bit approx.

Add the basil, sugar, and salt. Cook for an additional 10 minutes. While sauce is cooking, cook the pasta in a large pot of boiling, salted water. Capellini cooks very quickly 2 minutes ; other noodles take longer. Check the package. Do not overcook the pasta; it should be al denle - firm to the bite. Drain the pasta in a colander and add it to the sauce.

Cook for 1 minute, then serve immediately with freshly grated parmesan or romano cheese. Serves 3, or 2 very hearty eaters. Wash the chicken carefully and place it breast up in a baking dish. Chop the onion and combine it with the thyme, and a little olive oil. Stuff the chicken with the mixture. Cut small slits in the skin of the breast and put one garlic clove in each. Brush olive oil over the surface of the bird. Arrange potatoes and carrots around the chicken.

Place pan in oven and bake until done approximately 1 hour. To check doneness, cut into the breast with a knife down to the bone. If the chicken is white all the way through no pink showing , it is done. Variations: Substitute dill for the thyme. Try other root vegetables like turnips or sweet potatoes instead of or in addition to the potatoes and carrots.

Safety Warning: Always wash your hands and all utensils including the cutting board with soap immediately after handling raw chicken or other meats. Slice the bread lengthwise and spread with butter-oil-garlic mixture. Sprinkle lightly with parsley. Put the two halves of the loaf back together and wrap in foil. Unwrap and cut into 2-inch slices before serving. Serves To cut the smell of garlic on the breath, drink a full glass of milk. Activity: Cook one or more of these dishes or yourself. If you enjoy them, begin a recipe file. Note any variations you fry. Suggested Reading: With literally thousands of cookbooks on the market, you could cook a different dish every night for the rest of your life and never get through them all.

If you are a beginner, though, it is best to obtain one or two of the classic introductions to the art of cooking. Absolute beginners who only need to be able to make a few simple dishes might also enjoy Dad's Own Cookbook by Bob Sloan. For a list oj books on wine, please see the reference book list in the chapter on Advanced Btillering.

In general, the finer the grind, the more flavorful the coffee. A standard proportion is one tablespoon of ground coffee to six ounces of cold water for coffee machines and filter or drip methods. Avoid percolators, as they often give a metallic or burned taste to the brew. Heat the water to boiling and then pour over the coffee, making sure to soak all the grounds. Coffee can be kept hot in a thermal carafe, but should not be left on the heating unit of a coffee machine, as it will scorch and taste foul.

A tablespoon of liqueur can be added after dinner for a sweet dessert coffee. Flavored coffees, although they smell lovely in the shop, are often weak and tasteless once brewed. Tea drinkers are perhaps even more particular about their brew than coffee aficionados. Whenever possible, use loose tea rather than tea bags for the best flavor. Metal or mesh tea balls allow the tea to expand more and so yield a fuller flavor.

They also have distinct environmental advantages. For black tea, heat the water until it just boils: Look for small bubbles. Despite the ubiquity of the teakettle, using a saucepan makes it easier to gauge the water temperature. Pour the water over the tea to cover and allow to steep for minutes. Green teas require slightly cooler water and a shorter steeping time.

Pouring the tea is a distinction usually given to the female guest of honor. If you are asked to pour, remember that it is traditional to put the sugar and milk into the cup first and then pour the tea in. This is because many fine teacups are very thin and the hot tea might crack them.


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  • The cool milk absorbs the heat and saves the cup. If you are serving tea in glasses or without milk, place a metal spoon in the glass to absorb the heat. Black tea may be served with milk not cream, which is too heavy and obscures the subtle flavors of the tea , sugar, honey, or lemon. Never mix lemon and milk, as the milk will curdle. Green teas are served without any additions, often in small cups. Never re-use tea by pouring more hot water over it. This is the equivalent of adding more hot water to a pot of brewed coffee. Cold, used tea bags make wonderful eye compresses and will also absorb strong odors in the refrigerator.

    Suggested Reading: The traditions surrounding afternoon tea are so rich and varied that they form the subject matter of numerous books. All contain some background on the history of British teas as well as recipes and menu suggestions. Area Studies Congratulations! You have completed the basic skills training and household management sections of the course and are moving into more specialized work.

    Early on in lesson 2, you were asked to take a brief diagnostic test to help you get some ideas about the different kinds of slaves and your own interests and natural abilities. Please review that lesson now, and re-take the test. You may find that after several months of training, you know yourself better and your ideas have changed.

    Note which type s of slavehood most appeal to you, and proceed to those areas below. As I indicated in the introduction to the Household Management section, most slaves are expected to perform some type of domestic service, and it is to your benefit to have at least a working knowledge of what is required to run a house. Likewise, even if you already have a clear arrangement with a dominant that genital sex will never be a part of your relationship, you would do well to review the information in the lessons for sex slaves, as it contains ideas that may help you develop a more holistic view of sexuality.

    Again, congratulations on your work thus far. Sex Slaves Sex is a natural part of being human. It exists both for reproductive purposes and for the joy it brings us. Many slaves-in-training first became Training with Miss Abernathy Sex Workers as Role Models If you have chosen to focus your training on the sexual arena, you have much work ahead of you.

    Many beginners think being a sex slave is a life of leisure: after all, you have sex all the time, right? What could be better? Unfortunately, no one can have sex for hours and hours every day without it becoming tiresome, even boring. Ask any sex worker: sex is hard work. In fact, sex workers are your role models now. If they take their job seriously, and many do, they spend time and energy learning how to do that job better. They read and take classes, they talk shop with their peers, they form alliances and professional organizations.

    At its best, sex work can become a spiritual calling, a vocation in the highest sense. They take a powerful experience - sex - and use it to move themselves and others into ecstasy and communion with the divine. As a sex slave, you too can become a healer, a mediator of spiritual energy. Is it just a matter of some play-acting?

    What distinguishes a sex slave from any other lover is part of what distinguishes a houseboy from a professional domestic: attitude. While lovers may certainly derive satisfaction from pleasing their partners, they generally want to experience some pleasure for themselves. Their satisfaction lies in serving, not in orgasm.

    For a slave, sex is a service on par with cooking, cleaning, and personal attendance. It does not carry with it any greater respect than polishing boots, cooking a souffle, or scrubbing the floor. It is service, period. It is important to recognize that all of these activities have equal value and require dedication, intelligence, and skill. You should bear in mind, however, that to allow themselves to be served, dominants enter into a pact of trust with their slaves and must rely on their discretion and integrity.

    This is especially true of sex slaves, since physical intimacy is often equated with vulnerability in our sexual economy. In addition to the satisfaction of serving, you may eventually earn the honor of more complete trust from the dominant. For this you should strive. Self-Care for Sex Slaves Sex slaves need to attend to self-care, perhaps more than any other kind of slave. Nothing could be further from the truth.

    As you work through this material, be sure to take plenty of time for yourself. Take frequent walks and long, soaking baths. Attend carefully to your meditation and consider yoga or tai chi to help balance your body and psyche. Because you may spend more lime naked, you will want to pay special attention to your personal hygiene; some of the lessons below will cover personal care issues of special interest to sex slaves. Most of all, be sure to communicate with your trainer as well as in your slave journal about any emotional or physical changes that you experience.

    A Note on Safer Sex As part of your training contract, you may have negotiated an agreement about safer sex. As a sex slave, the practical aspects of safer sex Training with Miss Abernathy It behooves you to understand what types of sexual behaviors leave you and your partner s at risk for disease transmission and to take appropriate precautions.

    All of the general sex manuals and beginning SM books listed below will give you the basics of safer sex. Use them wisely. See also The New Our Bodies. Neil Wertheimer. Resources: San Francisco Sex Information provides referrals and information on sex-related topics by phone nol phone sex! They can be reached at Suggested Reading: Begin with one or two general sex manuals. The Joy of Sex series ed. Alex Comfort , available for gay men and lesbians as well as heterosexuals, are classic guides, illustrated with realistic drawings.

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